Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...?
Question: my friends parents are going through a divorce. both of them are dating. she likes her moms bf, but she HATES her dads gf. she keeps drawing pictures of ways to kill her dad and his gf. my other friend and i have been trying to help her. shes even been to a counselor. but nothing seems to be working. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Answers: Convieniently sneek one of the pictures and leave it where the father can find it.
No..that would be wrong.
All you can do is listen. A really good friend is a listening friend. If she actually starts making plans to follow through, then a really good friend is one who protects a friend from themselves. Tell the parents yourself.
Just make sure she does not try to hurt them. Talk to her about is alot and try to get her mind off the subject
I think you should tell a teacher. You may feel like the activities are harmless, but you never can tell. If she ends up hurting someone and you didn't try to stop her, you will feel responsible.
Please talk to a teacher that you trust.
It's sad, but normal. I assume you all about 13 yrs old..? ( sorry if you're older) Let her talk it out, be the rock of reason, humor, and escape from it all..
If you think she's REALLY going off the deep end tell her mom, that the parents NEED to address this as a team..
knock some sense into her! always works
have her learn that his gf might be nice. my parents are divorced and i hate my dads gf, she is ugly and a slutacious ***** but i dont kill her in drawings, i dont like my father as well. she doesnt really have anything good about her so that doesnt work on me but it might work on her
Pray for her, the best way you can do. And lend her your time and ears. She needs someone to talk to.
i think if you could sneak a picture away, give it to a teacher. (one that you trust) show them how serious you think this situation is and ask them to investigate it further. tell them your concerns, a counselor at school should have to listen, and hopefully youll have one thats good and will know who to go to. if a counselor isnt an option, talk to your parents or any trusted adult. someone needs to know about this. even if she doesnt intend to kill them (which im sure she doesnt) she still has some issues that need to be taken seriously. a therapist should probably see her and her dad, mom, and their significant others and figure this all out in group.
TRY HELPING HER UNDERSTAND THAT SHE MIGHT NOT LIKE THE GIRLFRIEND BUT HER DAD DOES. SHE IS PROBABLY FEELING A LITTLE NEGLECTED. WE DON'T GET TO PICK OUR PARENTS. NOR THEIR PARTNERS.TRY TO GET HER INVOLVED IN SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP HER WITH HER ANGER. YOGA IS VERY RELAXING. CHESS IS A GREAT WAY TO KILL , WITHOUT ACTUAL VIOLENCE. GOOD LUCK.
The worst thing that could possibly happen would be for her to act on what she has drawn or get someone to do it for her. The next worst thing would be for her to hurt herself. The friendship is important, but not as important as making sure that neither of those things happens. Tell a teacher you trust or a school counselor. Show them one of the pictures if possible. A lot of the advice you have been given is good. Being a good listener is important. Letting her express her feelings is a way to get them out of her head where they can do a lot of harm. But you have to listen as a friend who cares enough to protect her and her family if you are convinced that she is dangerous to herself or someone else. She will be mad, but if she gets the help she needs and her mom and dad become aware of what she is going through so that they can help her it will be worth her being mad. In time she'll get over mad. She won't get over being in jail or dead.
I would firstly talk to your parents about it then see if your parents can talk to her parents about it if they wont do that as this is a serious situation and a sad one at that talk to the person in charge of your school if you go to one If this is a recent break up alot of children suffer terrible through parents divorce and your friend is lost to what to do about the situation as she just wants her mum and dad to be together (maybe) as she loves them both i think. If you feel you have to help her which is very good of you to still be concerned please consider maybe even going to the councelling session with her and that way you can all express your concerns. But you have to remember your friend is in alot of pain and she needs to be redirected to a better and healthier way of thinking she thinks that no one loves her any more and she probably most likely blames her self for her parents divorce, Which the children of divorced parents do suffer a great deal with personal problems that will cause out of control behaviour and eratice behaviour, Which is quite understandable with the pain she and other children in her situation feel through in a divorce I do not say its okay to think of violence and its not okay to be violent A divorce is a dission of two parents (adults) And sometimes in some cases divorce is the only way that a parent feels they can change things for the better for every one involved its no use in living with some one that simpley does not wish to communicate with you or love you any more I wish your friend happiness in the future and smiles for now, Good luck to you too and i wish you luck too. Please let us know how it goes please as this is no quick fix this will take years for your friend to ajust to her parents dicission or may be if the pain is to deep to ajust your friend will have her own family and loved one to cherish in the future, And lets hope for a better future for all children that suffer in divorce.
please go and tell a teacher,principle, Your parents and if no one is listening to you. If you believe this is a real concern you may have to see your local police as yes this is of normal behaviour but you never know what paople that are on a verge of a break down (not saying your friend is ) but just in case she is you dont know what she is capable of so please dont hesitate to go forward with what you know as you also could be held responcible if something does happen to her dad or any off her parents or maybe you could even get hurt, sorry as sad as it is you know about it there fore you could be in troble too (only if someone is hurt ) and you didnt say any thing she may even consider hurting herself :( be true to your self and ohers I am sure the parents of all sides want to know what is going on there fore they can also help your friend
:)
Answers: Convieniently sneek one of the pictures and leave it where the father can find it.
No..that would be wrong.
All you can do is listen. A really good friend is a listening friend. If she actually starts making plans to follow through, then a really good friend is one who protects a friend from themselves. Tell the parents yourself.
Just make sure she does not try to hurt them. Talk to her about is alot and try to get her mind off the subject
I think you should tell a teacher. You may feel like the activities are harmless, but you never can tell. If she ends up hurting someone and you didn't try to stop her, you will feel responsible.
Please talk to a teacher that you trust.
It's sad, but normal. I assume you all about 13 yrs old..? ( sorry if you're older) Let her talk it out, be the rock of reason, humor, and escape from it all..
If you think she's REALLY going off the deep end tell her mom, that the parents NEED to address this as a team..
knock some sense into her! always works
have her learn that his gf might be nice. my parents are divorced and i hate my dads gf, she is ugly and a slutacious ***** but i dont kill her in drawings, i dont like my father as well. she doesnt really have anything good about her so that doesnt work on me but it might work on her
Pray for her, the best way you can do. And lend her your time and ears. She needs someone to talk to.
i think if you could sneak a picture away, give it to a teacher. (one that you trust) show them how serious you think this situation is and ask them to investigate it further. tell them your concerns, a counselor at school should have to listen, and hopefully youll have one thats good and will know who to go to. if a counselor isnt an option, talk to your parents or any trusted adult. someone needs to know about this. even if she doesnt intend to kill them (which im sure she doesnt) she still has some issues that need to be taken seriously. a therapist should probably see her and her dad, mom, and their significant others and figure this all out in group.
TRY HELPING HER UNDERSTAND THAT SHE MIGHT NOT LIKE THE GIRLFRIEND BUT HER DAD DOES. SHE IS PROBABLY FEELING A LITTLE NEGLECTED. WE DON'T GET TO PICK OUR PARENTS. NOR THEIR PARTNERS.TRY TO GET HER INVOLVED IN SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP HER WITH HER ANGER. YOGA IS VERY RELAXING. CHESS IS A GREAT WAY TO KILL , WITHOUT ACTUAL VIOLENCE. GOOD LUCK.
The worst thing that could possibly happen would be for her to act on what she has drawn or get someone to do it for her. The next worst thing would be for her to hurt herself. The friendship is important, but not as important as making sure that neither of those things happens. Tell a teacher you trust or a school counselor. Show them one of the pictures if possible. A lot of the advice you have been given is good. Being a good listener is important. Letting her express her feelings is a way to get them out of her head where they can do a lot of harm. But you have to listen as a friend who cares enough to protect her and her family if you are convinced that she is dangerous to herself or someone else. She will be mad, but if she gets the help she needs and her mom and dad become aware of what she is going through so that they can help her it will be worth her being mad. In time she'll get over mad. She won't get over being in jail or dead.
I would firstly talk to your parents about it then see if your parents can talk to her parents about it if they wont do that as this is a serious situation and a sad one at that talk to the person in charge of your school if you go to one If this is a recent break up alot of children suffer terrible through parents divorce and your friend is lost to what to do about the situation as she just wants her mum and dad to be together (maybe) as she loves them both i think. If you feel you have to help her which is very good of you to still be concerned please consider maybe even going to the councelling session with her and that way you can all express your concerns. But you have to remember your friend is in alot of pain and she needs to be redirected to a better and healthier way of thinking she thinks that no one loves her any more and she probably most likely blames her self for her parents divorce, Which the children of divorced parents do suffer a great deal with personal problems that will cause out of control behaviour and eratice behaviour, Which is quite understandable with the pain she and other children in her situation feel through in a divorce I do not say its okay to think of violence and its not okay to be violent A divorce is a dission of two parents (adults) And sometimes in some cases divorce is the only way that a parent feels they can change things for the better for every one involved its no use in living with some one that simpley does not wish to communicate with you or love you any more I wish your friend happiness in the future and smiles for now, Good luck to you too and i wish you luck too. Please let us know how it goes please as this is no quick fix this will take years for your friend to ajust to her parents dicission or may be if the pain is to deep to ajust your friend will have her own family and loved one to cherish in the future, And lets hope for a better future for all children that suffer in divorce.
please go and tell a teacher,principle, Your parents and if no one is listening to you. If you believe this is a real concern you may have to see your local police as yes this is of normal behaviour but you never know what paople that are on a verge of a break down (not saying your friend is ) but just in case she is you dont know what she is capable of so please dont hesitate to go forward with what you know as you also could be held responcible if something does happen to her dad or any off her parents or maybe you could even get hurt, sorry as sad as it is you know about it there fore you could be in troble too (only if someone is hurt ) and you didnt say any thing she may even consider hurting herself :( be true to your self and ohers I am sure the parents of all sides want to know what is going on there fore they can also help your friend
:)
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