My analyst is really good, just becomes inappropriately sarcastic at times. how to deal w/ countertransference?
Question: have had long streak of analysts, some better than others, some really great. This last one is really good, makes me look deep into myself and things in general, but often becomes condescending and inappropriately sarcastic. Example exchange: I'm getting really fat on these meds, it's getting so bad I have to look for bigger pants sizes Well, I told you about these other meds, they are much better I know but I've taken them and they cause akathisia to me, which is unacceptable (irritated) Ok, then, keep searching for bigger pants sizes
Answers: When he gets like that, you should call him on it. Just because he's an analyst, that doesn't mean he doesn't bring his own issues to the table. He should be professional enough to keep that stuff to himself when he's seeing clients. You used the word often and that can be a wide range. If often is enough to interfere with your therapy, you should definitely make an issue of it. After all, you are there for you, not for him.
And who knows, maybe he's not even aware of his behavior. You may just give him something to talk to *his* therapist about. :-)
Maybe he is trying to be light hearted and not have you take everything sooo seriously. Or he could be a passive agressive personality. Anyway, just bear in mind he is human and most humans have a propensity to be judgmental.
Yeah, mine is like that too, lol. There is no perfect one out there. They all have their annoying little quirks. Just let them know how much they're bothering you. They could just think they're being funny, lighting up the mood, when instead they're making you feel really uncomfortable. Unless they know that, however, they won't stop.
If the medicine you're taking is making you gain weight, try looking into other medicines. I'm sure your doctor can help you find something that works. It just takes time.
treat him as part of ur therapeutic process; whatever ur condition is,it includes interactin w ppl in a kind &appropriate way. no differen w a therapist,he's an imperfect human bein like anyone else
mine does irritating things from time to time also..here is what i have come up with and hope it helps...therapy is suppose to be a safe place to learn things..ways to express anger, hurt, and yup..how to confront someone when they over step their bounds....i am the worst person when it comes to confrontation so i started by telling him things he does that bothers me by writing him a note...then just kinda been moving on..now im up to telling him over the phone...face to face well, still working on it...so take what is going on as a learning opportunity and try some new skills out...i bet ya he is expecting it!!! be well, Duch
Answers: When he gets like that, you should call him on it. Just because he's an analyst, that doesn't mean he doesn't bring his own issues to the table. He should be professional enough to keep that stuff to himself when he's seeing clients. You used the word often and that can be a wide range. If often is enough to interfere with your therapy, you should definitely make an issue of it. After all, you are there for you, not for him.
And who knows, maybe he's not even aware of his behavior. You may just give him something to talk to *his* therapist about. :-)
Maybe he is trying to be light hearted and not have you take everything sooo seriously. Or he could be a passive agressive personality. Anyway, just bear in mind he is human and most humans have a propensity to be judgmental.
Yeah, mine is like that too, lol. There is no perfect one out there. They all have their annoying little quirks. Just let them know how much they're bothering you. They could just think they're being funny, lighting up the mood, when instead they're making you feel really uncomfortable. Unless they know that, however, they won't stop.
If the medicine you're taking is making you gain weight, try looking into other medicines. I'm sure your doctor can help you find something that works. It just takes time.
treat him as part of ur therapeutic process; whatever ur condition is,it includes interactin w ppl in a kind &appropriate way. no differen w a therapist,he's an imperfect human bein like anyone else
mine does irritating things from time to time also..here is what i have come up with and hope it helps...therapy is suppose to be a safe place to learn things..ways to express anger, hurt, and yup..how to confront someone when they over step their bounds....i am the worst person when it comes to confrontation so i started by telling him things he does that bothers me by writing him a note...then just kinda been moving on..now im up to telling him over the phone...face to face well, still working on it...so take what is going on as a learning opportunity and try some new skills out...i bet ya he is expecting it!!! be well, Duch
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