WHAT DO u DO IF ur THE KIND WHO KEEPS GRUDGES??
Question: im usually too sensitive abt things and i tend not to forget and forgive easily/...and then i get really uncomfortable? what can i do to help myself overcome this...?
Answers: Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.'
'History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.'
I find I keep a grudge for several reasons: some one made me angry (which is not true--the only one that can make you angry is you); or I was hurt and wish to hurt someone back. In the end it usually me that ends up hurting. In holding a grudge, I miss life, miss enjoying other people. Anger is okay, but you need to dump the residule ashes (bitterness) somewhere, or leave them in the rain and let nature take care of them, to clean you memory--otherwise your thought processes remain forever tinged with regret and/or hostility.
I cannot unlive the pain caused to me by someone. But if I face it with courage, I can learn from it, and move on with my life.
you will eventually become the grudge like the movie the ring, remember death is only the beginning. You cant escape but only accept your destiny, that is why you never want to have any regrets in your life, it will torture u til death.
I have a problem with this also.. I just try to keep in the back of my mind that everyone is human and they probably didnt mean to hurt me. I screw up too and they dont hold it against me.
Hope that helps.
The hardest level of higher consciousness we need to achieve is to forgive people who hurt us. It is very hard to carry around anger for a long time. I have not been able to let go of stuff and enenies from my school days, more than 25 years. We need to strive to let things go.
go to college and learn things
Well if u held a grudge against me all the tie then I'd learn to hold ones against u to help u break the habit. BUt since u don't I can't and won't. All u relle need 2 o is remember that if they forgive u then u should 4give them b/c they deserve to recieve the love that they r showing u.
Answers: Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.'
'History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.'
I find I keep a grudge for several reasons: some one made me angry (which is not true--the only one that can make you angry is you); or I was hurt and wish to hurt someone back. In the end it usually me that ends up hurting. In holding a grudge, I miss life, miss enjoying other people. Anger is okay, but you need to dump the residule ashes (bitterness) somewhere, or leave them in the rain and let nature take care of them, to clean you memory--otherwise your thought processes remain forever tinged with regret and/or hostility.
I cannot unlive the pain caused to me by someone. But if I face it with courage, I can learn from it, and move on with my life.
you will eventually become the grudge like the movie the ring, remember death is only the beginning. You cant escape but only accept your destiny, that is why you never want to have any regrets in your life, it will torture u til death.
I have a problem with this also.. I just try to keep in the back of my mind that everyone is human and they probably didnt mean to hurt me. I screw up too and they dont hold it against me.
Hope that helps.
The hardest level of higher consciousness we need to achieve is to forgive people who hurt us. It is very hard to carry around anger for a long time. I have not been able to let go of stuff and enenies from my school days, more than 25 years. We need to strive to let things go.
go to college and learn things
Well if u held a grudge against me all the tie then I'd learn to hold ones against u to help u break the habit. BUt since u don't I can't and won't. All u relle need 2 o is remember that if they forgive u then u should 4give them b/c they deserve to recieve the love that they r showing u.
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